01of 16Kelsea Ballerini: Heal on Your TermsKelsea Ballerini.Mary Kouw/CBS via GettyAfterKelsea Ballerinicalled it quits with her ex-husband Morgan Evans, she embarked on an “active healing journey.” In her endeavor to grow, she decided to fully dedicate herself to her latest record,Subject to Change. Speaking onCBS Morningsin October 2022, the singer said she was “showing up for this album and showing up for myself like I never have.“Even though she feels as though she’s going against her natural instincts to be a “peacemaker” and “people-pleaser,” Ballerini leaned into the desire to prioritize herself.“It’s easy to shame yourself and it’s easy to want to hide, and I just want to be proud of myself, in 10 years, on this season of my life,” she said on the talk show. “This is not just a heavy time in my life, this is also a celebratory time in my life. I don’t want to shade that because that’s important to feel.”
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Kelsea Ballerini: Heal on Your Terms
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AfterKelsea Ballerinicalled it quits with her ex-husband Morgan Evans, she embarked on an “active healing journey.” In her endeavor to grow, she decided to fully dedicate herself to her latest record,Subject to Change. Speaking onCBS Morningsin October 2022, the singer said she was “showing up for this album and showing up for myself like I never have.”
Even though she feels as though she’s going against her natural instincts to be a “peacemaker” and “people-pleaser,” Ballerini leaned into the desire to prioritize herself.
“It’s easy to shame yourself and it’s easy to want to hide, and I just want to be proud of myself, in 10 years, on this season of my life,” she said on the talk show. “This is not just a heavy time in my life, this is also a celebratory time in my life. I don’t want to shade that because that’s important to feel.”
02of 16Jennifer Lopez: Know Your Worth FirstGetty ImagesWhenJennifer Lopezand Jane Fonda sat down to chat for aGlamourQ&A in 2011, theShotgun Weddingstar shared her biggest takeaway from all of her past relationships.“You’ve got to love yourself first. You’ve got to be OK on your own before you’re OK with someone else,” Lopez told Fonda. “You’ve got to value yourself and know that you’re wortheverything. And until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can’t really have a healthy relationship.”
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Jennifer Lopez: Know Your Worth First
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WhenJennifer Lopezand Jane Fonda sat down to chat for aGlamourQ&A in 2011, theShotgun Weddingstar shared her biggest takeaway from all of her past relationships.
“You’ve got to love yourself first. You’ve got to be OK on your own before you’re OK with someone else,” Lopez told Fonda. “You’ve got to value yourself and know that you’re wortheverything. And until you value yourself enough and love yourself enough to know that, you can’t really have a healthy relationship.”
03of 16Taylor Swift: Go at Your Own PaceAmy Sussman/GettyIna 2015 interview withElle, Swift described how she recently had experienced heartbreak — and how she knew she was over it. And much like her lyrics, her advice is so specific and also so universal.“A heartbroken person is unlike any other person. Their time moves at a completely different pace than ours. It’s this mental, physical, emotional ache and feeling so conflicted. Nothing distracts you from it. Then time passes, and the more you live your life and create new habits, you get used to not having a text message every morning saying, ‘Hello, beautiful. Good morning.’ You get used to not calling someone at night to tell them how your day was. You replace these old habits with new habits, like texting your friends in a group chat all day and planning fun dinner parties and going out on adventures with your girlfriends, and then all of a sudden one day you’re in London and you realize you’ve been in the same place as your ex for two weeks and you’re fine. And you hope he’s fine.”
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Taylor Swift: Go at Your Own Pace
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Ina 2015 interview withElle, Swift described how she recently had experienced heartbreak — and how she knew she was over it. And much like her lyrics, her advice is so specific and also so universal.
“A heartbroken person is unlike any other person. Their time moves at a completely different pace than ours. It’s this mental, physical, emotional ache and feeling so conflicted. Nothing distracts you from it. Then time passes, and the more you live your life and create new habits, you get used to not having a text message every morning saying, ‘Hello, beautiful. Good morning.’ You get used to not calling someone at night to tell them how your day was. You replace these old habits with new habits, like texting your friends in a group chat all day and planning fun dinner parties and going out on adventures with your girlfriends, and then all of a sudden one day you’re in London and you realize you’ve been in the same place as your ex for two weeks and you’re fine. And you hope he’s fine.”
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Michael B. Jordan: Lean Into Work
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In February 2023, Michael B. Jordan told CBS Mornings co-host Gayle King about howkeeping busyprevented him from dwelling on his painful breakup with Lori Harvey the previous year.
Having come out on the other side of the heartache, Jordan spoke optimistically about what the future has in store.
“I’m in my light right now. This is my Jordan year, I mean that,” the actor said. “This is my year. There’s so much going on, so many blessings, so many great things.”
05of 16Gwyneth Paltrow: Find Your PeaceCharley Gallay/Getty ImagesGwyneth Paltrow, who famously used the term “conscious uncoupling” to describe her divorce from Chris Martin, certainly seems to have a steady head on her shoulders during times of romantic turmoil. In an essay she wrote forVogue, the Goop founder listed the characteristics that defined her amicable split with the Coldplay singer.First of all, Paltrow needed to be simultaneously forgiving and empathetic: “I came to understand that forgiveness involves taking responsibility for your half of the relationship,” she wrote. “You cannot begin to forgive until you have felt what it is like to be in your partner’s shoes, coping with the hardest parts of you, your trauma, your dysfunction.“The lifestyle guru also explained that “spite” is only a hindrance to moving forward. “The point of a break-up, if you have to go through it, is to grow. To use the opportunity to really look at yourself and heal broken patterns so you don’t find yourself in the same situation again,” Paltrow said, adding, “if spite blocks that process, being able to cultivate good feelings will encourage it.“Finally, try to focus on the things you loved about your former partner, to help facilitate a more positive uncoupling: “Love all of those wonderful parts of them. They still exist, they can still make you feel the way you felt for that person. Rather than shutting them out, lean into the unfamiliarity of those feelings and explore them.”
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Gwyneth Paltrow: Find Your Peace
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Gwyneth Paltrow, who famously used the term “conscious uncoupling” to describe her divorce from Chris Martin, certainly seems to have a steady head on her shoulders during times of romantic turmoil. In an essay she wrote forVogue, the Goop founder listed the characteristics that defined her amicable split with the Coldplay singer.
First of all, Paltrow needed to be simultaneously forgiving and empathetic: “I came to understand that forgiveness involves taking responsibility for your half of the relationship,” she wrote. “You cannot begin to forgive until you have felt what it is like to be in your partner’s shoes, coping with the hardest parts of you, your trauma, your dysfunction.”
The lifestyle guru also explained that “spite” is only a hindrance to moving forward. “The point of a break-up, if you have to go through it, is to grow. To use the opportunity to really look at yourself and heal broken patterns so you don’t find yourself in the same situation again,” Paltrow said, adding, “if spite blocks that process, being able to cultivate good feelings will encourage it.”
Finally, try to focus on the things you loved about your former partner, to help facilitate a more positive uncoupling: “Love all of those wonderful parts of them. They still exist, they can still make you feel the way you felt for that person. Rather than shutting them out, lean into the unfamiliarity of those feelings and explore them.”
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Khloé Kardashian: Distract Yourself
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On her now-defunct website, Khloé with a K, the reality star opened up about herapproach to moving onafter romantic fallout. One way to stay on the road to recovery, she said, is keeping your mind focused elsewhere.
Still, the Good American rejected the idea that “there is a timeline for grieving or healing or getting over someone or something.” She asserted her belief that “we all heal on our own time–some are faster than others, and I think some loves are really just harder to get over than others.”
07of 16Rihanna: Change Your PerspectiveRihanna.Cooper Neill/GettyRihannapassed on some wisdomvia Twitter direct message when a fan asked her how to cope with romantic woes.“Just believe that the heartbreak was a gift in itself! Cry if you have to, but it won’t be forever!” the singer sweetly advised. “You will find love again, and it will be even more beautiful! In the meantime enjoy all that YOU are!!!”
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Rihanna: Change Your Perspective
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Rihannapassed on some wisdomvia Twitter direct message when a fan asked her how to cope with romantic woes.
“Just believe that the heartbreak was a gift in itself! Cry if you have to, but it won’t be forever!” the singer sweetly advised. “You will find love again, and it will be even more beautiful! In the meantime enjoy all that YOU are!!!”
08of 16Blake Lively: Grow Through ItDia Dipasupil/FilmMagicIt may sound crazy, but in 2011, Blake Lively toldUs Weeklythat she’s generally managed to avoid overly agonizing breakups. Her trick, she says, is to look back at each unsuccessful romance as a positive, formative experience.“Every relationship you have, you’re learning and growing and taking something from that,” the actress said. “So for me, it’s never been too dramatic of a thing when something ends.”
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Blake Lively: Grow Through It
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It may sound crazy, but in 2011, Blake Lively toldUs Weeklythat she’s generally managed to avoid overly agonizing breakups. Her trick, she says, is to look back at each unsuccessful romance as a positive, formative experience.
“Every relationship you have, you’re learning and growing and taking something from that,” the actress said. “So for me, it’s never been too dramatic of a thing when something ends.”
09of 16Jennifer Aniston: Feel Your FeelingsSteve Granitz/WireImageIn a 2005 interview withVanity Fair,Jennifer Anistonspoke outfor the first time about her split fromBrad Pitt. As she acknowledged her own pain, the actress also explored the broader intricacies of trying to move on after a devastating breakup. They key to starting anew after a tragic end, she said, is to confront the hurt head-on.“There are many stages of grief. It’s sad, something coming to an end. It cracks you open, in a way — cracks you open to feeling,” Aniston explainedin the article. “When you try to avoid the pain, it creates greater pain.”
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Jennifer Aniston: Feel Your Feelings
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In a 2005 interview withVanity Fair,Jennifer Anistonspoke outfor the first time about her split fromBrad Pitt. As she acknowledged her own pain, the actress also explored the broader intricacies of trying to move on after a devastating breakup. They key to starting anew after a tragic end, she said, is to confront the hurt head-on.
“There are many stages of grief. It’s sad, something coming to an end. It cracks you open, in a way — cracks you open to feeling,” Aniston explainedin the article. “When you try to avoid the pain, it creates greater pain.”
10of 16Alexa Chung: Don’t Book a HaircutDave Benett/GettyIn her bookIt, Alexa Chung offered her thoughts on the common instrict to update your look as you update your relationship status.“Hair is so linked to how we feel and everyone goes for something radical after a break-up, but my advice is not to touch your hair. It’s the first thing women do but you’re not in a fit state to make long-term decisions. You’ll have to spend four years growing it out,” Chung warned her readers.An easier way to revamp your style? “Buy a lipstick instead,” says the fashion expert. “Go and kiss loads of other people, but don’t f—ing touch your hair.”
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Alexa Chung: Don’t Book a Haircut
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In her bookIt, Alexa Chung offered her thoughts on the common instrict to update your look as you update your relationship status.
“Hair is so linked to how we feel and everyone goes for something radical after a break-up, but my advice is not to touch your hair. It’s the first thing women do but you’re not in a fit state to make long-term decisions. You’ll have to spend four years growing it out,” Chung warned her readers.
An easier way to revamp your style? “Buy a lipstick instead,” says the fashion expert. “Go and kiss loads of other people, but don’t f—ing touch your hair.”
11of 16Ryan Reynolds: Get CreativeDave Benett/GettyWhen one fan tweeted that she superimposed a picture of theDeadpoolstar over her ex-boyfriend in their prom photos, Reynolds voicednothing but supportin response. “We should photoshop me over his yearbook picture next. #DontMessWithGabi,” the star replied.
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Ryan Reynolds: Get Creative
When one fan tweeted that she superimposed a picture of theDeadpoolstar over her ex-boyfriend in their prom photos, Reynolds voicednothing but supportin response. “We should photoshop me over his yearbook picture next. #DontMessWithGabi,” the star replied.
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Mindy Kaling: Learn to Love Being Alone
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13of 16Miley Cyrus: Trust Things Will Work OutMike Coppola/FilmMagicIn a 2017 interview on SiriusXM’sHits 1, Miley Cyrusshared her thoughtson couples that rekindle their romance after a breakup, just as she and Liam Hemsworth did duringtheir relationship.“I think that’s awesome, because you know it’s true, but you get time to be yourself. You get time to grow up,” she said. “I think if you’re growing up attached to another person, you never really get solid as your own being.“As far as her own on-and-off timeline with Hemsworth, the “Flowers” singer followed her instincts. “I didn’t know if that was the end of it, or if we’d be back together again,” she explained on the radio show. “But [I] knew that wherever I was going, I was on the right path.”
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Miley Cyrus: Trust Things Will Work Out
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In a 2017 interview on SiriusXM’sHits 1, Miley Cyrusshared her thoughtson couples that rekindle their romance after a breakup, just as she and Liam Hemsworth did duringtheir relationship.
“I think that’s awesome, because you know it’s true, but you get time to be yourself. You get time to grow up,” she said. “I think if you’re growing up attached to another person, you never really get solid as your own being.”
As far as her own on-and-off timeline with Hemsworth, the “Flowers” singer followed her instincts. “I didn’t know if that was the end of it, or if we’d be back together again,” she explained on the radio show. “But [I] knew that wherever I was going, I was on the right path.”
14of 16Katy Perry: Don’t Text Your ExStewart Cook/ShutterstockDuring an interview with popular romance radio host Delilah Rene for her podcast “Conversations with Delilah,“Perry revealed that not hitting send on certain messageshas been her saving grace on a number of occasions.“It’s like a lesson in self-control,” she said. “I like drafting and then sleeping on it because, for me, my emotions get very heightened in the evening [and] then in the morning when I wake up I’m like, ‘Oh, I’m so glad I didn’t send that! I can get through another day without this situation.'”
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Katy Perry: Don’t Text Your Ex
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During an interview with popular romance radio host Delilah Rene for her podcast “Conversations with Delilah,“Perry revealed that not hitting send on certain messageshas been her saving grace on a number of occasions.
“It’s like a lesson in self-control,” she said. “I like drafting and then sleeping on it because, for me, my emotions get very heightened in the evening [and] then in the morning when I wake up I’m like, ‘Oh, I’m so glad I didn’t send that! I can get through another day without this situation.'”
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Lauren Conrad: Indulge a Little
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Lauren Conrad offered some empathetic counsel for heartbroken readers ofher blog.The Hillsalum wrote: “There are those breakups that are so bad that you will need a good cry and a pint (or two) of Ben & Jerry’s. Let yourself have what you need. (Note: Hanging with Carrie, Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda will help too.)”
In the same way she advised her readers to enjoy some frozen treats and binge-watch a beloved show, Conrad also sanctioned the inevitable–albeit possibly painful–deep reflection that follows a split.
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Selena Gomez: Jam Out in Good Company
TheOnly Murders in the Buildingstar andher BFF,Taylor Swift, lean on each other when the dating game gets tough. Gomez toldSeventeenabout how the two team up and make each other catchy and cathartic playlists when one of them suffers heartbreak.
source: people.com
